Retro underwear - forget it.

I went looking for underwear today and I was so very disappointed. If you want something fun and slightly retro it's not out there. If you step outside the black, white, skin coloured and those hideous whole sets with poor boning and too much ruffles of the wrong kind there's nothing. Oh, I need every day bra's, but today was the day when I was going to find something fun. It didn't happen.

After searching the net some I must say that I'm terribly disappointed. Not even the stores marketing retro and rockabilly clothing have any sets or bra's. The odd knickers, but that doesn't help me who is in dire need of new bra's.

The words

Den dagliga kärleken

Kärlek
men inte den som springer
på glödande fötter
till och ifrån snabba möten
jagad och jagande
sårad och sårande
inte den som lever högt på ständigt
smärtsamma avskedstaganden
utan den kärlek
som ger trygghet och vila
som värmer och värnar
och endast har ett enda avsked att frukta:
dödens

Kärlek
men inte den som knappast hunnit stilla sin längtan
förrän en ny uppstår
inte den hetsigt hetsande
piskad av begärens krav
oftast mer plågsam än ljuvlig
inte heller den ångestfulla kärleken
som är rädd att bli bränd
och samtidigt rädd att inte få brinna
utan den milt flödande kärleken
den som vågar vila
och när tid är
störa den utvilade

Kärlek
som är att vakna tillsammans
och möta den blåögda morgonen
att utbyta leenden som värmer
och värnar om den nya dagens framtid
att på resan genom dagen
vila tillsammans på klockslagens små väntstationer
och intaga gemensamma måltider
upplysta av lingonsyltens röda glädje

De dagliga skavsår vi får och ger
den dubbelsidiga smärtan
som värker inom oss
och som vi övervinner hos varann
den osynliga skyddsängel
som kammar ut irritationernas snår
övermättnaden som hotar med tomhet
men botas genom att var och en
drar sig tillbaka till
ensamhetens nödvändiga oas
rätten att vara frånvarande i var sitt drömland
glädjen at vara närvarande i varandras liv -
detta är kärlek.

/Maria Wine

We have a song!

Darling's kid brother will play the guitar and sing. It was an unexpected choice that I stumbled over when we couldn't think about anything and I was out cruising the net for ideas. It's catchy and happy and fits us really well.

Registrar meeting

During the weekend we're going to see the registrar who is going to marry us. This means I'll have to investigate some more what we want, other that "do you take...". The legal part takes 15 seconds at the most so we should have something more. The officiant may have ideas of her own too, so we need to be armed for a discussion and find out what we're going to do.

It sure feels a lot more real when we actually will see her and talk about this.

Sugar skull cake toppers - finished

Scrap made pretty

 

This is the DIY'ed corsage I'm going to wear. All of it except of the felt in the swallow and the sugar skull are made from left over bits and pieces I had in my boxes.

It turned out better than I imagined and I'm quite pleased.

Robbery!

We need a loo. My parents don't have the regular water closet toilet so we can definitely not use the existing toilet. Not that it's a good idea anyway since our systems aren't built for 40-50 people using the toilet during one evening.

However, it has turned out that the region where I live is twice as expensive as the neighbouring one. TWICE. It means they want 2000 SEK/€210 for ONE DAY. I say it's robbery in broad daylight. Had we had the party in Småland it would have been 1000 SEK/€105. We could have had a trailer with 4 toilets for that price.

On top of that we're having an international scout jamboree beginning in 10 days in the neighbourhood and it ends less than a week before our marriage. There will be a shortage of portable toilets because of this.

It got me thinking. Maybe we should just build something. It's a farm and we have the means to handle shit, to put it mildly. I'm pretty sure we could get away with a lot less than 2000,- if we did, not to mention that it would probably look better too. I think I need to discuss this with mum and dad.

Bettie bangs is going to happen!

Since I decided to go for this rockabilly-ish style on clothes I have been mulling over the hair. Dreads aren't particularly rockabilly, but with a fringe it would still work. However, they're a bit too pricey for comfort. What to do? Check Tradera of course. I managed to get hold of a fringe there for almost nothing.

I have only cut it a bit here. I'll need to style it some more on the day. With my dreads in a tail tucked in under a bandana the whole thing works just fine as a rockabilly hairdo.

The peasant blouse

I have finished the incredibly simple gingham peasant blouse I'm going to wear. Without further ado:

It's short because the jeans I'm going to wear are high waist. Feels great to have it done!

Rock 'n' roll!

No bouquet. I'm combining the elements below in a wrist corsage instead.

Moving forward

I was struck down by a cold 10 days ago which hampered my possibilities to DIY somewhat, but not entirely. The pre-cooking is slowly progressing and the coming week the gumbo base will be all ready. I'm halfway through the tortilla making and today I made the first pavlova base, the meringue on which the whipped cream and fruit will be.

I also discovered that I have calculated the fan bunting all wrong so I had to convert them in to long gathered flag buntings instead. Not a big deal and actually less work.

The tin cans that will become lanterns are in the freezer with water/ice. It has turned to ice but I'm going to wait another day just to make sure they're really frozen. Later this week I'll start making patterns on them with a hammer and a nail.

The one big thing left is the clothes. They lie in the storage room watching me every time I go in there. Once I'm dealing with that I'll be done in two days (giving some time for error here) so I shouldn't be bothered but I am, for some reason.

Yesterday I got myself a fake fringe for next to nothing which I'm hopefully will get tomorrow. The 40's roll fringe will happen, so now I'm officially a rockabilly bride! I'm silly exited about that, because the hair have been a huge issue for me. I wanted to do something different but it's a bit difficult with such a fixed hairstyle as dreads, but with the fringe I'll be able to keep my hair in place and have a great look, all going well with the style of the clothes. Now all I need is a bandana, and that may be more difficult than anticipated. I don't want to pay a ridiculous p&p for one bandana, but it may be a bit tricky to get hold of one in my home town since it's not exactly hip to be wearing bandanas right now.

DIY blankets

In this northern part of the world we always run a risk of getting cold evenings, even in the hight of summer. If we're lucky we get a heatwave with tropical nights, but that rarely happens in August though.

Since we're having an outdoor lounge I figured some blankets would be a good idea in case it gets cold. 8 blankets is the plan. There are more blankets we could use too if needed.

It's the cheapest blanket available at IKEA with the cheapest quilt cover available at the same place. Two blankets and one quilt cover makes two swanky shabby blankets.

Now I have 6 more to make.

Romania? Not quite.

I have 20 fan bunting flags I need to make as decoration for the barn walls. I'm now halfway through the project. The "flags" are sewn together and pressed, ready to have one side gathered and a strip of fabric finishing off the upper side of the flag. Tomorrow I'll start with the gathering which will have to be done by hand because the folds need to be in a certain width for it to work. The hand basting will slow things down a bit. I have no idea how many I can make in one day, but I bet it won't be 15, as I did today.

There they are. All nicely pressed and folded. A good day's work indeed. And I'm blissfully ignoring that it looks like we're celebrating the free Romania. It is the colours of Sweden and Skåne. It'll look less... Romanian, when they're done I'm sure.

I'm done, in several ways

Second day of IKEA shopping and I'm done with it. What a relief. I also went to the textile store next to IKEA in Malmö and got myself some denim fabric and red gingham cotton plus thread, buttons etc. etc. and as I write this the fabrics are being washed so I can start sewing the clothes. Yay! I feel accomplished. And exhausted.

Time to start cutting some fan bunting fabrics!

A bit daunted

After actually calculating how much fabric I now have, I've realised how much I have to do. 20 fan buntings flags (70x125 cm) and 8 blankets. On top of the clothes. And the rest of the DIY. And the cooking. Sigh. I have 47 days left until the event but in reality I have 39 days.

I'm glad I'll be done with the shopping the coming days.

Hairdo musings

I have been messing with my dreads today. I don't have a fringe, something I have regretted not saving when I got my dreads every now and then. Right now I regret it a lot.

Thing is, since I've decided to head in the general rockabilly direction it'd be cool to have a fringe. I can make a back rolled fringe with my dreads, but dreads behave a lot different than ordinary hair does so I'm not sure it will be a good thing to do in the end. A normal fringe would be so much better. Problem is, I don't really want to buy an extension for just one day, and I'm not keen on cutting the dreads around the forehead to get a real fringe.

I like fringes, it's not that, but I've had these dreads for 5 years now. They've been my saving grace when my illness has caused my hair to fall out. I've grown very attached to them.

I'll think about it for a while.

How impossible can it get? Very impossible.

Finding dungarees/bib overalls has turned in to a challenge I didn't foresee. I'll have to abandon that idea unfortunately. They're either ridiculously priced at €315 or too large. I'd drown in loose fit 32', which seems to be the smallest size available.

I'll need to figure out something else obviously. I still don't want a dress. The most offbeat kind of clothing reasonably readily available is rockabilly style clothes, so I've been thinking I could perhaps head that way. I've also decided to go back to sewing again. It takes me about 2 hours to sew a pair of trousers and a peasant blouse takes a lot less. I think I'm going to wear a bandana in classic rockabilly fashion, because I want my hair up and out of the way. Just trying to pin it in to place is difficult because my hair is so heavy. Dreads tend to be. I'll come back to that later.

Jeans in dark indigo with yellow thread seams, higher waist than normal and cowboy style at the back and a gingham peasant blouse (haven't decided whether I should wear navy blue or red), that's what it looks like right now, and considering how close we are, it's got to be the final thing. I'm wearing flip flops or red Converse to this outfit, depending on weather. I have red wellies too if it really gets bad.

It's fairly close to what I had in mind at first. The trousers basically lack the upper part of bib overalls really. Now I only need the patterns and fabrics. Easy peasy.

Spending money

So today I got most if the things I still haven't bought which we need aside from the IKEA stuff.

• iron thread - for hanging the glass jars
• brick layer thread - for hanging fiesta bunting and balloons
• globe party lights
• wash line - for the ceremony and lounge
• schnapps glasses
• coffee cups
• gunny thread - for the name tags on the glasses
• plastic tablecloths
• paper runners
• plastic forks

Still to go are

• teaspoons
• bamboo torches
• plastic taps

I'm going to get the torches and teaspoons tomorrow and I'll order the taps next week. The first weekend of July I hope we can go to IKEA and get the stuff we need there.

This week we'll finish the cleaning of jars, making dahlia flowers and cutting the bunting. I'll be cocking some more gumbo of course. After the IKEA trip I'll need to sew the flag bunting and the blankets - and continue with the cooking. By the end of July I want everything do be finished, the DIY and the preparation cooking, so there's nothing hanging over my head. I'll need to be able to just clean and put everything up the last week before the big day. I want this to be a good time for everyone and I want to be able to enjoy it.

But oh, am I going to scare the teenagers doing the waiting? Yes I will. But it's not that bad. It's all a rather laid back affair and we could have pulled it off without the 4 or 5 teens we now have. They should be able to handle this without any problem at all. After all, we'll probably only be just over 40 in total without the teens.

I've really started

I have decided to make sugar skulls as cake toppers, but I'm not making it easy for myself. There are no moulds to be found on this side of the Atlantic and we don't have meringue powder either. While trying to figure out just what meringue powder is I stumbled over some sites (selling products naturally) stating using caps lock, YOU CANNOT MAKE SUGAR SKULLS WITHOUT MERINGUE POWDER. Fine, I get it, you need something to bind the sugar.

However, there are other things you can use to bind sugar so meringue powder isn't necessary. It's one thing to want to do it the way they're made in Mexico, and another thing to make a sugar paste so you can make a sugar skull. The key is the sugar and the skull shape, the rest is just... superficial. I'm going to make a sugar paste the way we make it here in this nook of the world and use it to make the skulls. No one's going to eat them or notice the difference anyway. It's going to be interesting.

I've started the cooking as well. The gumbo can be pre-made and kept in the freezer for up to three months, so it's time to start. I'm going to cook another 5 batches the coming weeks and then I'm done with the gumbo. Next thing is the tortilla bread. In July I'm going to make the meringue for the Pavlova cakes we're having and freeze them. The rest is going to be cooked the day before the wedding. It's not that much cooking to be honest, but a lot of dicing, cutting and mashing. In the morning on the wedding day cream will be whipped up for the Pavlova and we're also be making the drinks for the day.

I'm contemplating getting large plastic containers to keep the drinks in until it's supposed to be poured in to the dispensers. They are easier to store that way until it's time to drink them.

Well, it's slowly coming together with two months to go.

New dessert

We have gluten and lactose intolerance among our guests. I knew that one invited person, who have declined, have lactose intolerance but a mild kind, but it turns out that we have more people with these problems.

The dinner isn't a problem. I can make gluten free tortillas and use lactose free crème fraîche and everyone will be happy. The dessert however is a different story. The rocky road I was going to make contains both gluten and lactose. The gluten can be excluded but there's no such thing as lactose free milk chocolate.

Personally I don't like gluten free flour. I have been without gluten for two weeks to check if I had celiac disease and it was a horrible discovery. Baking with gluten free flour is baking concrete. Trying to mimic something for what ever reason, is usually not a good idea, and that's as true with plastic trying to look like wood as gluten free flour trying to be ordinary flour. It's a lot better to embrace the non gluten plants we have and adjust accordingly.

This means I will not make anything containing flour, so no cakes or pies of any kind. And when you think about it, there's a lot of flour dependant desserts out there. Since we have excellent lactose free products these days thanks to Valio, I don't have to exclude milk products as long as it's not milk chocolate.

I still want to make it simple, possible to pre-make and put in the freezer, so what are the options? Meringue can be frozen for up to a month actually, if it's the kind of meringue that has a sticky core, to preserve that chewiness. This means I can make them well in advance and take them out in the morning on the big day.

So what do you get if you combine meringue, whipped cream and fruits/berries? You get Pavlova. Not very southern, but it's a dessert everyone will be able to eat and it's always a huge hit. I still haven't met one who doesn't like Pavlova.

I'm relieved to have found a simple replacement (which actually is cheaper too) but now I have a plate related problem. Need to think about that.